‘He will never understand what he did to you, and you will never understand why he doesn’t understand. But you do understand that it was a mistake.’
‘She walked away so easily from you, as if you meant nothing to her. You cannot wrap your mind around it, but she is gone, and you are left in the cold, and now you are regretting your decision to even have tried in the first place.’
Due to circumstances like the above listed, they influence reactions such as to why so many persons today are choosing to remain single or attempt to love without giving their all. Reactions to not being able to understand, how ‘I’ could have been through so much, finally chose that one person that I believed was the person that brought me happiness, peace, and comfort; was that same person who turned around and left me hanging, with my heart in my hands and my emotions left all vulnerable, for the world to finish off.
Your heart and mind are hurting from the pain that person left you in, but when I just said it out loud, didn’t it sound like too much to place on one single human being?
It did.
One person does not deserve all that to be placed on them. At some point, we are all guilty of doing this though.
Therefore, this typical human behavioral pattern, peaked my interest in sharing some tips of what we can do to reconcile, and try to stop finding healing in people.
What can be done:
- What may have happened to us in the past, has nothing to do with them, but has everything to do with us. We must come to terms with our past and accept that our present and future will be different. Pray, Forgive, Let go and Live. Repeat this every day and believe it.
- If more of us took the responsibility to heal before we pursue a serious relationship. Our minds will be clear enough to spot all the red flags and deal breakers and call it quits, before ultimately going down the road of routine and regret. When we look beyond the red flags and accept them and then it doesn’t work out, who can we really blame?
- A broken-hearted person craves love, and many times it’s because we lacked it from our very own parents. The persons who were purposely designed to love us first. Then we have the cycle of broken-hearted children growing up accepting affection in the first place that ‘looked’ like love, but it definitely did the job of affecting us worse. When this happens. Let us promise to love ourselves first. After we know how love should feel, then we can recognize love from someone else.
- Do you know ‘Incomplete’ by Sisqo? If you do, you’re a legend 😉. It is a nice song that really pulls at the heart string. But while this song describes him having that person that completed his world, and when he had her, he wasn’t ready to completely commit, after eventually losing her, that is when he regretted having let her go. Love is beautiful and of course we all want that one person who will complete us. But we shouldn’t count on someone else to make us whole. We need to be whole, so that when we finally meet that other whole person, we can make a whole happy union. Instead of two halves making each other whole, get it?
- Accept it that, that person just doesn’t love you, simply, because you are not theirs to love.
Another thought can be, how we do actually get healing? I am not out here trying to feel like this every day.
- If we believe in love, then we believe in God. He is the greatest author of love. He created Eve for Adam, he created marriage, he so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son. He loves us at our best and he loves us at our worst. Love him first.
- Focus on you.
- Let go of all the pain, baggage, remorse, and hate. It will consume you.
‘I use to recognize myself, it’s funny how reflections change, when we’re becoming something else, I think it’s time to walk away. Come on let it go, just let it be’ – James Bay.
We all deserve love, and it will come in God’s timing. Let’s trust that.
